A Sadomasochist

How to feel pain better? When you give it or when you receive it?

Mar 06, 2023

Again we are together! You love it. I love it.

So, here I am. I am becoming the person I want to be. The one I play with in the dark. That one you discover through these newsletters, my not-so-secret garden.

Today we are talking about sadomasochism. Why is it so good to feel or give pain? Why do we need it so badly, and it is interfering in our brains full of emotions?

Show your kinky side as an act of total art

The Marquis de Sade suggest that men and women are born with wild sexual urges and desires, but they do not dare to fulfill them. How do you express your needs?

Is a threat exciting, and potentially liberating? What is this kinky power that makes it so threatening? Eventually can this power be utilized as a tool for empowerment?

“Sadomasochism is an eternal characteristic of man. It existed during de Sade's time, and it exists now. But that's not what matters most... The real meaning of the sex in my film is as a metaphor for the relationship between power and its subjects.”

Pier Paolo Pasolini about his film Salò, or the 120 Days of Sodom

Pier Paolo said this in 1975, and to me it never has been more vivid than today, it is about the society we live in, a lack of hope, and the escape into consumerism…

There is something so exciting about the act of submitting or being submitted. Don’t be a cadaver spending its life in limbo. Enjoy, explore, and develop your perversity.

“The very few people who made history are those who said no, not the courtesans and the cardinals’ assistants. Therefore, an act of refusal must be total and not partial, in a nutshell it must not focus on this or that, nor must it be dictated by wisdom.”

Pier Paolo Pasolini’s last interview, on the eve of his murder

So, here I am. Trying to define myself. And you — who are you? How are you defining your inner sex-self? Do you keep it taboo or did you find a way to talk about it?

I am so curious about you. Don’t hesitate to reply to this email or answer in the chat...